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Best Friend

Posted on March 8, 2018 at 3:05 PM Comments comments (1)

Be Your Own Best Friend


We are often socialized to believe that caring for ourselves makes us selfish and self centered. Certainly there are those folks who are self centered to the point of narcissism, which is destructive. However, there is something that we all must look at. Taking care of ourselves, physically, emotionally and spiritually.


First responders are taught to assess a situation, make sure that we are safe and then intervene to save lives. If you are on a plane and listening to the safety instructions you will know that you are instructed to put on your own oxygen mask first, then see to the others around you. Why is that?


There is actually a very practical reason for it. You can not help others if you are in danger yourself, or at risk of being in danger. We can only help others by operating from a position of strength.


If you are a care giver for others, a healer by nature or helper by personality, the greatest thing you can do in your efforts to help others is to help yourself. Take the time to stretch and nurture your body. Center your spirit and energy so that you can be full to help others. Make sure that you are on stable financial and emotional ground so that you can bless and aid others.


There is nothing selfish about this, it is demonstrating the same love for self that you have for others and ensuring that you are always able to care for others in most optimum way possible.


So before you give away your time and energy to others, make sure that you have invested adequately in yourself. Taking the best care of you lets you take the best care of others. So this week, be a good friend to yourself. Speak kindly and encouragingly to yourself, spend time with your higher power and give yourself the gift of good self care.

I'm the One!

Posted on January 30, 2018 at 3:00 PM Comments comments (0)

I'm the One!


Fall in love with yourself first. It sets the tone for every other relationship you have. If you believe, and if your really want to know what you believe, look at your behavior; that you don't deserve to be loved and respected, don't be surprised when you aren't.

Learning to love and value yourself is a journey, it doesn't come overnight. What does self love really mean? It means becoming and staying your authentic self, flaws and all and speaking your truth with compassion. It means learning to embrace what makes you, you. It means investing the same time and energy into yourself that you do into those around you.

Why is this so hard to do and understand? Most of us are taught from a very young age that everyone is more important than we are, that we shouldn't be selfish, that we should always give and that it is weak to receive. This is difficult programing to overcome. The reality is much more challenging, taking care of ourselves while not being self centered, to value ourselves so that we can give more and to invest in ourselves so that we can invest in others.

How do we do that? Start by looking in a mirror and being grateful for your body. It does a lot of hard work to keep you going and often while dealing with a lot of hatred directed at it. Find one thing you can like about your body and honor it.

Invest in yourself by challenging yourself mentally, spiritually, and physically every day. This is easily done. Walk a few extra steps, pray, set your intentions, be grateful, learn something new.

Be kind to yourself, be your own best friend. Do and say to yourself what you would do and say to a friend.

Shut down your inner critic. It offers no solutions, just problems and reasons to feel bad. It will find the dark clould behind every silver lining. It is destructive and does not serve you or your higher good.

When you are ready to learn something new, come see us at Bell, Book & Candle, we would be delighted to be help you along your path and be your cheerleader all along the way.

Joyful Eating

Posted on January 3, 2018 at 7:05 PM Comments comments (0)

Cooking Up Joy


When you decide to eat, do you gorge yourself on misery or do you dine on delectable joy?


We often don't recognize that we are making that choice, but we are. Sometimes we feel so starved for joy, for love, for happiness that we binge it on fast foods of frustration, anger and loneliness. We are too hungry to pass up a crummy hamburger to wait for prime rib.


Why do we do that? Well, let's be honest, sometimes we just let ourselves get too hungry and thirsty. Then there is the sugary delight of effervescent bubbles of unhappiness, the deep fried deliciousness of resentments, the salty tang of bitterness and of course the spicy burn of heartache. It tastes so good going down.


It isn't until later that we begin to understand the clogs in our arteries of happiness and connectedness are being affected. The heartburn, the bloating, the discomfort that comes from ingesting that junk food of anger we swallow, the meanness and judgment that we shake on our interactions like salt, the discontent that we fry all those nuggets up in. We make the choice to mindlessly eat our constant need that blunts our taste buds and ruins our appetite.


In this New Year, I hope that you learn to dine more consciously. That you inhale deeply of the sweetness in life. That you generously cook with lots of herbs like love, joy, choice, opportunity, respect and that it flavors your life deeply. That you season your life with the spices of passion and pleasure.


Set your table and life with the good stuff, the delicious and rare treats that come to us and dine fully on this amazing buffet we call life!


Bon Appetit!

Fruitcakes

Posted on December 19, 2017 at 5:00 PM Comments comments (0)

Fruitcakes 

During this time of year it is easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of the season. Things to do, people to see, lists to complete. Here at Bell, Book & Candle, we believe that Fruitcakes are one of the best symbols of the season. As Jimmy Buffett put it in a song of the same name, the Cosmic Baker took us out of the oven just a little too early and that's why we all have a little bit of crazy in us. In a year that has focused on all the negative in the world, we encourage you to take a look at the nutty and sweet parts of life.

The people in our community that make it unique and ours, who did the right thing, who stood as a voice for others, who smile and hug when they see us. The people who made us laugh and smile and made our hearts swell a little. The people who make a difference with their aloha, their humor and their sweetness.  The people on our island that have unique viewpoints, the incredible diversity of our life here, adds depth and spice to our fruitcakes.

We have been blessed to come to know so many of these people, we are so grateful for the crumbs that they spread in our lives! So, please, in the midst of all you have to do, take a moment to look around you and let yourself experience the beauty and grace of our island, and the people who live here.

We wish everyone the very best of the Season, every blessing for the New Year, and heartfelt thanks for accepting, encouraging and patronizing our business. We look forward to serving you in the coming year. Be Blessed, Be loved, Behold the Wonder and most importantly, enjoy the Fruitcakes!

Share Joy This Season

Posted on November 29, 2017 at 3:15 PM Comments comments (0)



Sharing Joy This Season

Tis the season to be loving, jolly and kind. A favorite time of year for many people, this time of year can also be a source of stress and decided unkindness. It is up to each of us to follow our path while extending respect and kindness to others.

Did you know that between November 1st and January 15th there are 29 Holidays? Seven major religions have significant celebrations during this time. Probably the two best known are Christmas and Hanukkah. It seems this time of year, in spite of the desire for good will towards other people, turns into a hot bed of debate. So, what do you do? This seems to be the challenge, I wish my Christian friends a Merry Christmas, my Jewish friends a Happy Hanukkah, my Pagan friends a Happy Yule. If I don't know what holiday someone is celebrating, their faith, or lack thereof, I wish them a Happy Holiday! Some people of course will choose to be offended. Let them, clearly they don't grasp the “reason for the season”. If you slip up and offer the wrong salutation, by and large most people will accept it with the warmth that you intended it. In this time of division it is important that we are inclusive of all our neighbors. For me, the easiest and most thoughtful way to do that is to offer the Season's Greetings to all.

At Bell, Book & Candle we celebrate every spiritual path and honor the beliefs of that path no matter what it is. That is why you will find items for Jews, Christians, Pagans, Muslims, Buddhists, Agnostics and occasionally an Atheist too. Whether you are celebrating Christmas, Boxing Day, Las Posades, Hanukkah, Omisoka, Dhanu Yatra, Solstice, Yule, Kwanzaa, Longest Night or St. Lucia Day, come see us, we have items that will help your holiday be Merry and Bright!

Why Shop Local?

Posted on November 3, 2017 at 7:05 PM Comments comments (0)

Why is it important to support your local small businesses?  


We've all done it, run into a national chain store to pick up something cheap and fast. Those stores do have their place, but let's talk about how supporting your locally owned businesses can help you and your community!

We all recognize that the big stores can get things cheaper because they have the buying power of thousands of stores, they have shipping contracts and divisions so that they avoid high shipping costs, a very real issue here in Hawaii.

You do pay a little more at your local business, but what do you get for that money?


You are investing in your local economy, out of every hundred dollars you spend in one of the big stores less than half stays here in our community. When you support a local business $68 dollars of that $100 stays right here on this island, it improves our local economy.


When you shop locally you get to know the people behind the product. When you personally know the people behind the business where you’re buying local products and services, you enjoy a connection you would not otherwise have and cannot get from chain stores. As a community, we celebrate when a local business succeeds and we mourn when it’s forced to close. We are invested in the success of the people we know, we all enjoy having wonderful little shops that can't be found anywhere else.


Let us be honest though, when you don't support those businesses with your purchases, they cannot keep their doors open. Is the $15 dollars you are going to save at that national chain store really worth the empty buildings and lack of shops that comes from not shopping local?


The chain stores don't have a personal investment in our community. Local shops cannot sell items at a loss in the knowledge that your impulse buys will more than make up for the loss. They do not have massive teams of psychologists telling them how to display products to increase sales and impulse buying. Instead they have actual people who can answer your questions, help you find what you need and who will often times refer you to another local shop who does have what you need if they don't have it. They have a real interest in helping you get what you need.


Your local shop keeper gets to know you, your family, what you need, want and like. They are truly happy to see you and want you to have a positive experience. They listen to your feedback and it is much more of a partnership. You become an active participant in bringing products and services to your community.


Your support of local businesses keeps your community unique.

Local businesses give a community its flavor. We all know that local place that has the best food, makes the best Bloody Mary, has the best mochi, and the best coffee. These are the places that make us who we are and out community special. It's the thing that makes us unlike any other place in the world. By supporting local businesses instead of chains, you are protecting that uniqueness that is your community.


When you shop local you have a connection to a person if you have a problem. There is a person there to give you customer service, not a robot on the phone. We've all dealt with the nightmare of the dreaded 1-800 number, that transfers you 10 different people who ultimately either have no idea what you are talking about or are so far out of the decision-making loop that they can't help you anyway. There’s little concern that the company will lose you as a customer. When you shop local, the business owner is usually directly connected to every employee in the store. That leads to a personal approach that often means any problem you have is taken seriously.


Having the owner nearby also means that owner personally knows his customers. He/she knows the products you buy or the services you request on a regular basis and can tailor services to make your experience even better. A local gardening shop owner may learn about a new natural product on the market that can help you with a pest control problem and develop or get the product you mentioned on one of your visits. The chain stores will offer you what their corporation tells them to offer and your requests will generally be ignored.


Buying local has benefits beyond mere convenience. When you support local business owners, you get a better level of service, as well as helping make your community a better place to live. You keep more money in the community and you encourage growth in your community. Local shops also provide jobs that support families you know, that live here too. This is in addition to the diversity of products or services and preserving the things that make a community unique are all great reasons to support your local businesses. You won't find that with chain locations.


Shop local, not just on National Small Business Day, but everyday, whenever you can. Even a $10 purchase can keep some of your local business' viable.


Have a great weekend!



Why Drink Tea?

Posted on October 26, 2017 at 5:00 PM Comments comments (0)

Why Drink Tea?



Tea has been around since ancient Sumeria. In ancient China it was seen as more precious than jade. Zen Buddhists brought tea from China to Japan. From there it spread across the world and into every culture. It was valued for it's health benefits and use in ceremony. Drinking tea can lift your mood, ease anxiety and improve your health. It can strengthen your immune system, help you relieve cold symptoms and is an exceptionally great tool for meditation and self care.


What is tea? Tea is a brew made with water and various kind of tea leaves, black, green, and white teas have varying levels of caffiene. Herbal teas are also called tisanes, and often have no caffiene and are not technically teas, though we call them that.


Here is a quick run down on teas and what they can do for you. Herbal blends can soothe a cold and relieve congestion, help you relax and settle an upset tummy. Many blends can provide you with powerful antioxidants that prevent free radical damage and reduce cell aging. Have indigestion, heartburn or nausea, tea can help with that too. Need to reduce your stress levels? Need to fall asleep easier and sleep better? Feeling anxious? Teas and tisanes have been clinically proven to work as effectively as many prescription and over the counter drugs and dealing with these challenges and with none of the side effects that often accompany medications.

Need to improve metabolic conditions, and decrease inflammation in muscles and joints? Yep, teas and tisanes can help with that too, as well as improving kidney and liver health by helping your body flush out toxins.  Teas and tisanes can mprove and maintain hydration, which helps you feel better over all and strengthens your immune system.


How can teas and tisanes help you? Contact Sara at Bell, Book & Candle and find out which teas can help you live a better and healthier life!

Praying and Intentions

Posted on October 18, 2017 at 3:55 AM Comments comments (0)

People ask me often if I become offended when people of other faiths tell me that they will pray for me. I have to wonder why anyone would be offended by anyone bestowing blessings on them. Like, no, I'm maxed out on blessings and good vibes, pass? I am honored when someone else sees in me, something that inspires them to communion with their belief system with the intention that I am blessed, watched over guided. So I say to all that have offered me prayers and blessings, I thank you, from my soul, for caring for me enough to take time out of your life to hold space for me, it matters that you held me up to the light for consideration and Blessing. I know that we do not always agree on a path or how to walk it, but we are still on the path together, and for that, I am grateful. Follow your path, speak your truth and be well in all you do! Mahalo nui loa.

Why Shop Local?

Posted on Comments comments (0)

Why is it important to support your local small businesses?  


We've all done it, run into a national chain store to pick up something cheap and fast. Those stores do have their place, but let's talk about how supporting your locally owned businesses can help you and your community!

We all recognize that the big stores can get things cheaper because they have the buying power of thousands of stores, they have shipping contracts and divisions so that they avoid high shipping costs, a very real issue here in Hawaii.

You do pay a little more at your local business, but what do you get for that money?


You are investing in your local economy, out of every hundred dollars you spend in one of the big stores less than half stays here in our community. When you support a local business $68 dollars of that $100 stays right here on this island, it improves our local economy.


When you shop locally you get to know the people behind the product. When you personally know the people behind the business where you’re buying local products and services, you enjoy a connection you would not otherwise have and cannot get from chain stores. As a community, we celebrate when a local business succeeds and we mourn when it’s forced to close. We are invested in the success of the people we know, we all enjoy having wonderful little shops that can't be found anywhere else.


Let us be honest though, when you don't support those businesses with your purchases, they cannot keep their doors open. Is the $15 dollars you are going to save at that national chain store really worth the empty buildings and lack of shops that comes from not shopping local?


The chain stores don't have a personal investment in our community. Local shops cannot sell items at a loss in the knowledge that your impulse buys will more than make up for the loss. They do not have massive teams of psychologists telling them how to display products to increase sales and impulse buying. Instead they have actual people who can answer your questions, help you find what you need and who will often times refer you to another local shop who does have what you need if they don't have it. They have a real interest in helping you get what you need.


Your local shop keeper gets to know you, your family, what you need, want and like. They are truly happy to see you and want you to have a positive experience. They listen to your feedback and it is much more of a partnership. You become an active participant in bringing products and services to your community.


Your support of local businesses keeps your community unique.

Local businesses give a community its flavor. We all know that local place that has the best food, makes the best Bloody Mary, has the best mochi, and the best coffee. These are the places that make us who we are and out community special. It's the thing that makes us unlike any other place in the world. By supporting local businesses instead of chains, you are protecting that uniqueness that is your community.


When you shop local you have a connection to a person if you have a problem. There is a person there to give you customer service, not a robot on the phone. We've all dealt with the nightmare of the dreaded 1-800 number, that transfers you 10 different people who ultimately either have no idea what you are talking about or are so far out of the decision-making loop that they can't help you anyway. There’s little concern that the company will lose you as a customer. When you shop local, the business owner is usually directly connected to every employee in the store. That leads to a personal approach that often means any problem you have is taken seriously.


Having the owner nearby also means that owner personally knows his customers. He/she knows the products you buy or the services you request on a regular basis and can tailor services to make your experience even better. A local gardening shop owner may learn about a new natural product on the market that can help you with a pest control problem and develop or get the product you mentioned on one of your visits. The chain stores will offer you what their corporation tells them to offer and your requests will generally be ignored.


Buying local has benefits beyond mere convenience. When you support local business owners, you get a better level of service, as well as helping make your community a better place to live. You keep more money in the community and you encourage growth in your community. Local shops also provide jobs that support families you know, that live here too. This is in addition to the diversity of products or services and preserving the things that make a community unique are all great reasons to support your local businesses. You won't find that with chain locations.


Shop local, not just on National Small Business Day, but everyday, whenever you can. Even a $10 purchase can keep some of your local business' viable.


Have a great weekend!




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